He's not the man I married!
As a women's ministries director I have heard those words numerous times from women who are tired of their marriages not being perfect and want out. He's changed, he's different, he doesn't do what he used to do when we were dating, he's not the man I married, etc. It makes my heart sad that we spend so much time tearing others down instead of begin grateful and lifting them up.
My husband is not the man I married. He has been ill for more than 5 years. He has had a kidney transplant, takes numerous medications to stay alive, his hands and arms are permenantly bruised as side effects and he bleeds if you touch his skin. The medications make his hands shake, make him moody and sometimes grumpy, he sleeps alot, he has lost too much weight, he doesn't often enjoy my gourmet meals (lol), and in general he is certainly not the man I married from the world's perspective.
But I still feel compelled to thank this man for his faithfulness to me and our children. He has continued to work and support us though his doctors advised him to go on disability. He gets up everyday at 3:15 am and drives nearly 40 miles one way to work, works 10+ hours and then drives home in the midst of Phoenix rush hour traffic. He never complains.
He loves our children and granddaughter tremendously and has been willing to do anything to help them even when his body wanted to rest. He has supported and loved me through the trials and joys of life.
This man I married is different. He is no longer the young, playful, energetic, spontaneous man I married 27 years ago but I wouldn't change it for the world. Today our lives are different than they were in 1981 but that is good. It is part of growing up and growing older together. Though we may not do the same things we used to do, there is still that look in his eyes that tells me 'I still love you'. There is still that pat on the back side, the kiss on the cheek, that same smile I saw on our wedding day that tells me Yes, he is the man I married.
Mark, you are the love of my life. You are the person God chose for me and I love you. Though life has brought us many twists and turns you have stuck with me like salt and pepper (go see Fireproof!). I cannot imagine a day of my life without you. You are strong when I am weak, you are determined when I waiver, you are calm when I am stressed. We stand on God as our rock and foundation but you have been a stabilizing force in our marriage.
Mark, today I take time to honor you and publicly say that I love you and I am so thankful that God placed us together. Thank you for the fun times and the times you have held me up when I was too weak to stand. You are my knight in shining armor, even though the armor may be a little tarnished, I love you just the same.
We still try to be silly once in awhile!
Considering It All Joy My Love, Cindy
Oh, Cindy, what a beautiful post! You brought tears to my eyes! Thank you for sharing this. The love you and your husband share is so pure and lovely and so refreshing to see. May God bless you both!ReplyDelete
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Cindy that is such a beautiful post about your hubby. We just celebrated our 20th anniversary. You know I'm not the woman he married either. I didn't have MS and need him to take care of me like he does now. We weather the storms together.ReplyDelete
Nice to "meet" you lady!ReplyDelete
What a beautiful post. I just don't even know what to say. But of course i will still ramble on...
Sara Groves (I'm obviously a big fan) has a song about marriage and some of the lyrics are,
"if we go looking for offense, we're going to find it.
If we go looking for real love, we're going to find it."
It's all about perspective, what we focus on. There are things in every marriage that are difficult. But this post is a reminder that there is more JOY in NOT focusing on the negative. there is so much we're missing if we do that.
Great post! :)
What a beautiful and heart-felt tribute to your husband! This sure did touch my heart, and cause me to stop and thank the Lord for my husband afresh this morning. Praise God He has blessed us through these special men. Thank you for this reminder today...ReplyDelete
May your marriage continue to grow in all that God has wrote for you!ReplyDelete
I love this....my husband deserves a whole book! I am off all next week if you'd like to meet for lunch...any day but Monday or Tuesday (I'm teaching a class those days) LeeReplyDelete
What a precious post. Matt and I have only been married 7 years. I so look forward to our future. Every year is different than the last. I hope you let him read what you wrote!!ReplyDelete
A worthy tribute. Thank you for loving one another through it all...for doing the hard thing and staying married through thick and thin. Our world needs more examples like yours.ReplyDelete
Thanks for visiting my blog today. Also thank you for your words. Yes, He is preparing our hearts for the Promised Land.
The desert is a place is a place of preparation....
Thanks again for your words....
Wow how beautiful is that! You are a testament of what marriage is supposed to be. Your man must be as proud to have you as you are to have him. May God continue to bless you as you bless your husband. I am new here and am going to keep reading.ReplyDelete